child teaching and upbringing

Do we really care for our Children?

“Children are the future of the nation”. This is the most quoted sentence ever when it comes to the speaking on the issue of the upbringing and teaching of the children. But think for while “do we really concerned about the issue and take the above quotation into consideration when we bring up our children?” I think, till now you must have got an idea of what I am going to talk about.

Few days back Amir Khan released his new movie ‘Tare Zamin Par’ which came with the same issue. I think he did the commendable job. He put the mirror before the society and also put the entire system of education in question. He aptly raises the issue that “do we really take the issue, of nurturing and educating the children, in the way it should be taken?” Think for a while what are we doing? The answer may not be in our favour. You may say that we provide our child with every facility that he or she deserve. Do you really think that this is enough for your little ones? Here I would like to quote an example of the scene from the film ‘Tare Zamin Par’.

The father of the child (ISHAN) comes to the boarding school only to show the teacher that as parents, they too care about their child. He said that his wife had explored all the details about their child’s problem on the internet. To this the teacher gives very penetrating reply to the father. He says that is it only enough to cater to the material needs of the child? Have you ever patted the child on his failures and condoled him that it is likely to fail, don’t worry I will be there with you in every failure.

This is very true for many of us. Many of us take their children as something like the weapons or the product and thereby launching them into the battlefield or the market of the world so as to win the glory or profit for us. Actually what we want from them is to achieve what we failed to do in our past. Some of us force these newly arrived eyes on the earth to dream the dreams for us without thinking that they have not started dreaming for themselves, yet. They even don’t know the meaning of their arrival on this strange place, where everyone speaks one thing and does the other. To fail for the child is considered something like the taboo in our society. Actually one should think that when we like to be forgiven even for our biggest mistakes, why should we punish these little wonders on their mistakes that are actually the mechanical part of their learning process? Why don’t we let their process of growing in a natural way? Why do we forget that they are individual beings too?

I know that every one wants to secure the better future for their children. But often when we become too careful, we actually damage their personal thinking. We should try to know what they really want to learn. Then and then we should try to mould them according to what is good for them. To acquire any higher degree is not only the goal of life, if it was so necessary then god already would have provided man with it. Degrees are part of life but many a times in its pursuit we loose the art of the life. Though we see plenty of examples of the successful persons who don’t have any so called degrees, we force our children to go and achieve the degrees that we have selected for them. In this chaos we miss the opportunity to be the witness of the gift/s sent the by the Almighty in the beautiful wrapper that we know as Child.

I would humbly request to all the parents and the teachers all over the world that be the helper and not the sculptor in the process of learning to these un-carved marbles so that they can meet the shape they want to achieve for their life.